Anxious about AI

by Kayleigh Roberts and Christine Harris 

New technology has always stirred up fears and worries about possible dangers, how it will be used, by whom will it be used, and the question: what’s next?

Artificial Intelligence

Get Grounded

We cannot think our way out of anxiety, instead we must focus on calming our body and mind first. Once we feel calm and collected, we can focus, get informed, and make informed decisions on how to move forward.

Be Mindful

Use your self-care tools to bring yourself back into balance.  You’ve got a beautiful toolbox in which you have your breathing techniques, yoga tools and more to help keep you grounded within yourself.

Set Intentions

Choose how to engage with technology

You are in control of how you interact with it.  If you feel that you are unable to stay grounded, repeat one of your favourite breathing techniques.

Set Limits

This is the part of helping yourself where you commit to using AI 15 minutes every day, no matter what.  Practice does actually make perfect, and you need to look at this as a training.

Acceptance

AI has been around in different forms for a while. A constant in the world is innovation and change. We need to look at what is happening and accept what is happening without running away with our imaginations. We don’t have to agree with everything, but the best path forward is knowing the lay of the land.

Get Informed, Quality Over Quantity

Less is More. Research AI using trusted source materials. Reading every article is a compulsion that will drain and exhaust vs. reading from trustworthy sources on AI.

Practice to become more familiar and get a better understanding of how AI works. You can use AI the way you would use a search engine for nuanced questions via prompts. Ask it to make a recipe using ingredients you have while avoiding specific food allergens. Make a cover letter for this job using this resume, then give me a mock interview. AI can be a helpful tool. Practicing something you’re unfamiliar with takes some of the fear out of the unknown and puts you in control.

Challenge Fears

A common fear is we will be replaced with AI. IBM’s Deep Blue Artificial Intelligence defeated a chess grandmaster in the late nineties, yet people still play chess and AI has become a useful tool and worthy opponent to practice against. In many ways AI has enriched the game.

We must be willing to envision a more positive or balanced future in order to bring that into existence. We need people using innovations to help each other. We need to dream up ways to regulate AI in ways to stay ethical and not violate people’s personal freedoms, creative identities, and rights to privacy.

When automobiles were introduced, there were very tangible problems and dangers. We progressively introduced regulations, safety features, designs, and infrastructures to promote safety. There is still much that could be improved on this end, such as calls to increase public transport that carries more individuals effectively, promotion of more bike greenways, and designing walkable cities.

Addressing Fears and Seeking Solutions

The fear of being replaced is at the heart of many concerns. Workers fear being replaced and losing their livelihood. This triggers our survival instincts: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. We need to check in with ourselves and use tools to self-regulate.  What can we do to feel more confident in ourselves and our abilities? Are there new skills we can learn that will make us stronger and help us feel more in control?

There are fears that AI will replace artists or create copy versions of people’s carefully crafted works and essentially steal individuals' identities. This is a new ground for both public opinion and policy on what we will accept or reject in AI behavior. How do we hold AI companies accountable to respecting people’s rights? We also have the ability to innovate art and make it more accessible for some to put their ideas to life. The printing press changed art by making it easily reproducible, yet artists continue and adapted to the new technology.

The environmental impact of AI is rarely discussed, but a great deal of tangible energy and mined materials are used in AI. We need to create safer working conditions throughout the supply line in AI as well as in all fields of production. We need AI companies to take equally tangible measures to reduce the negative environmental impacts. We do need inventors and creators who are working to make quality products and not settle for forced obsolescence.

When we feel feelings of fear come up we can get curious. The fear of change and the unknown is completely normal, and throughout history there has always been change.

Call for Accountability, You have the power to speak up

When we see violations to our rights we do need to speak up and hold each other accountable. There are legal grey areas in regards to malfunctions with self-driving cars. One needs to accept that companies making self-driving cars may be trying to evade responsibility for malfunctions, and thus, they as non-driving individuals may be held liable for their cars’ accidents. We can accept information on current policies and choose if we feel safe buying a self driving car from companies. We can push for legislation to change if companies are acting irresponsibly.  And the same goes for AI. 

Build Your Strength

Pause before engaging with your phone or devices. An exercise to quickly regulate yourself:  Notice 5 things you see; notice 4 things you feel touching your body; notice 3 things you hear; notice 2 things you smell; notice 1 thing you can taste. Set an intention for what you want to do with AI. Set a limit for how much time you will spend on a task before taking a break from your device to do an enjoyable activity.  And breathe as you train yourself to relax into your use of AI.

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Strengthening Confidence

by

Christine Harris*

True confidence is an ongoing process of shedding outdated beliefs about yourself that weigh you down.  This makes space to embrace positive qualities and values that empower your journey.  When you have developed more awareness about who you are and what you stand for and value, you’ll be on the path of increasing your personal resilience and confidence.  The purpose of this article is to help you focus on the elements needed to feel solid in your self-confidence. 

Judgment is something that will get in the way of strengthening confidence if you don’t become aware of how easily we jump to criticize, evaluate and judge ourselves.  It’s an inclination that only we human beings manage to cloud ourselves with and this keeps us muddling along versus flowing along!  Notice that we are the only animal that does this…if a deer trips over a fallen branch in the forest, once they’ve succeeded in moving past the branch, they don’t look back or pester themselves about tripping over the branch. 

Allowing yourself to judge and criticize yourself will only get in the way of strengthening your sense of self-confidence.  Spend this week observing yourself rather than judging yourself.  Here are the steps to break the judgment urge, so that you will move onto strengthening your confidence levels. 

Firstly, spend this week simply observing when and where you judged or criticized yourself.  This helps create more awareness, by reflecting on when you judged or criticized yourself.  You might make a note as you are looking for patterns of time, place, and what else was going on, etc. 

The second week when the urge to judge or criticize comes up, simply say to yourself, “That’s interesting” or “That’s curious”.  Keep practicing this way of being non-judgmental with yourself.  The urge to judge is just that…an urge…simply old wiring, a pattern that you have kept alive.  It is alright to let it go.  Judgment doesn’t increase your levels of self-confidence! 

What really matters to you? Make a list of attributes like creativity, honesty, knowledge, responsibility, relationships, adventure, and more.  Seek balance across any competing values, such as freedom versus stability.  Define what these principles mean in your life.  Do they align with how you think, speak and act day-to-day?  If not, make adjustments. 

When facing obstacles that test your capabilities and determination, resist the urge to give up. Reflect on insights gained and skills built through confronting the challenge.  Study resources or join a supportive community to continue growing your abilities.  Then reassess your approach with more self-compassion, and try again from this wiser perspective. 

Staying grounded in the present moment prevents getting distracted from what truly matters. Carve out time for self-care routines that connect you to your body, mind and spirit. Yoga, meditation, dancing, massage and being immersed in Nature engages the senses and calms anxiety.  Studies confirm that activities like being in Nature lower stress hormones and heart rate while boosting energy, mood and immunity. 

Relaxation practices are equally vital for resilience and are most successful when you train consistently for 21 days.  Once trained the relaxation practice will relax you in less than 30 seconds.  Just 10 minutes a day of deep breathing, peaceful visualization or repeating mantras activates the body’s relaxation response, leading to clearer perspectives and renewed motivation. 

Your self-talk carries weight, so tune in as you would to a close friend. Limit belittling narratives that feed insecurity and erode self-worth.  Instead, speak encouraging truths aloud and envision handling difficult situations well.  Read biographies of those you admire for any relevant wisdom.  What lessons or inspiration can you integrate from their example? 

Owning all aspects of your authentic self builds confidence from the inside out.  Rather than minimizing interests or emotions to please others, pursue what sparks passion in you.  Invest in personal growth, emotional intimacy in relationships, and activities that feel purposeful.  You’ll become more comfortable in your own skin, able to then connect confidently with individuals who appreciate the real you. 

Build Your Strength 

The Confidence Companion Team 

Surround yourself with champions who inspire boldness and believe in your ability to achieve meaningful goals.  Be selective about those influences, limiting time with peers or media that frequently criticize.  Their cynicism and pessimism can inadvertently become your inner soundtrack.  Instead, exchange ideas and mutual support with those who share your values and commitment to personal development. 

Have the Courage to Be Seen 

The visibility that comes with confidently expressing your creativity or pursuing leadership can seem daunting.  Banish worries of being judged and found not good enough. Those insecurities diminish your light.  Rather, have the courage to be seen for all that you are and wish to contribute.  People will critique no matter what you do or say, so stay true to your vision and purpose.  The right collaborators and opportunities will gather around your authenticity and passion. 

Expand Your Growth Mindset 

How we explain life’s setbacks and slights profoundly impacts motivation and grit.  A fixed mindset assumes challenges reflect an innate lack of talent or intelligence.  This disempowering narrative makes us quick to surrender when solutions don’t appear instantly. Conversely, a growth mindset approaches roadblocks as chances to build skills and knowledge.  Failures become lessons rather than indictments of self-worth.  Adopt this empowering narrative, along with the habit of asking “what can I learn here?”.  This mindset lifts confidence to keep thriving.  It also helps normalize that building anything great takes years of incremental progress and course corrections. 

Tend Your Inner Garden 

Our self-talk matters.  Negativity fuels insecurity and self-judgment.  Monitor inner dialogues as you would conversations with a good friend.  Release limiting thoughts and feed strengths and dreams instead.  Envision handling challenges.  Read about those you admire.  What lessons or inspiration can be gathered? 

Express Your Authentic Self 

Vulnerability builds connection and confidence.  Share feelings and values over impressing others.  Explore interests.  Uncover your true self, not who you think you should be.  Boldly say this is me - right here, right now.

*Assisted by Claude AI